Do you know the information you file with the Secretary of the State of Oregon Business License Registration is public? How many of you know an artist or other entrepreneur who has a box at the mail center down the street? We do this thinking it will protect our privacy as much as possible in this era of open information. The common misconception is this serves as the business address to satisfy the State of Oregon licensing, however, the State considers any kind of post office box illegal even though there is a street address attached to the mail center. Hiring an Agent Representative only forwards legal notices and doesn't fulfill the physical location requirement on the state license application or renewal. You can list the place where your tax records are stored as the legal address for your business ~ if your CPA is willing to forward the junk mail resulting from sales sharks who surf the licenses. Bottom line? If you do business in the State of Oregon, take the time to inform yourself and choose options to avoid fines or worse. The people on the other end of the phone at the office of the Secretary of State are knowledgeable and polite so it's easy to call and have your individual questions answered if the web page doesn't cover your concerns. sos.oregon.gov You can also check with the local Small Business Association or SCORE for information and assistance.
Working the River, Chewelah
This painting began as a life-size portrait I was trying to make work on a canvas that was not proportioned correctly. It needed to be skinnier.
Never one to be deterred, I kept trying to force the painting. The positive side is the first layer of paint was on the canvas.
Sometimes, the better part of valor and painting is to give in to the way things are not working and do something different. I turned the canvas upside down and went with a manufacturing plant at Chewelah, Washington. Acrylic. 6'x4'
Antidote for crazy-making...
Some people still hope the person-in-charge will have a “come to Jesus moment” and evidence a softening of heart because sane people can’t begin to comprehend a narcissist’s agenda.
A narcissist doesn’t care how you feel. They are so divorced from their own feelings they have no frame of reference. They don’t feel their own pain so they don’t recognize another’s pain.
Life is a movie to the narcissist, a film playing in their own head and woe to the person who violates the script. If someone does, the narcissist bides their time, for decades if necessary, to get even. A narcissist annihilates emotionally without compunction.
A narcissist lives to dupe others with manipulation ~ Duping Delight ~ look it up.
A narcissist doesn’t believe they are lying or committing wrongdoing. If they are caught out to the point they can’t spin a dupe, the closest thing to an apology they will issue is, “That’s not what I intended.” Revisionist history is their specialty.
You can’t reason with a narcissist. They feed on violence and mayhem and live to incite the people around them to chaos of emotion and behavior. Seeing other humans helpless, distressed or angry is recreation.
So how do we cope?
Instead of flailing in exhaustion and fear, experience quiet time to reclaim your internal power and self-respect. Practice self-care.
Don’t give your energy away or feed the narcissist by engaging personally, in this case, with cartoons, tweets, rants.
Instead of dedication to “fighting,” align to peace, use your strengths and choose reasoned methods to effect change.
Make the decision to stand firm and stay the course.
Repeat.
Disclaimer: A narcissist can change their behavior (I believe with new brain science miracles are possible) by voluntarily submitting for a lifetime of regular supervision and accounting with a savvy psychiatrist who gives no quarter. The road for anyone close to a recovering narcissist is way past rocky and exhausting as a narcissist learns a healthier way to relate.
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The Long Haul...
Observing social media and news feeds, two obstacles loom ~ fatigue and division.
Fatigue. It’s a rush to ride the collective adrenaline and outrage of the moment. With recovery from any deep grief, we eventually return to a familiar rhythm and routine. Life interrupts our best intentions and has to be attended to while rhetoric fades to background noise.
The isolationist US drug her feet entering WWII and the young men and women who signed up blithely announced they were going to end the war in a couple of months. Long bloody years later, if they were lucky and blessed, they came home to become our parents and grand-parents. Of course, women have never been in charge of a war before and civil disobedience is a powerful armament for change.
The first strategy of a facist regime is to weary people already overloaded with daily concerns by monotonous bombast. (Same with narcissists.) Witness the non-response verbal vomit of the confirmation hearings. Living among compassionate and thoughtful people doesn’t prepare us for the exhaustion of lack of authenticity and entitled insanity.
For a long haul we must examine our physical and emotional stamina. Recognize how and where our talents will make our best contribution and how we can allocate our energy in a difficult engagement over time.
Division. Division over the nuances of commitment to what is ethical in the world and what organization will best promote the beliefs we share is a death knell to forward progress. From diet programs to tires, people fight for the right to be right. We can’t afford anything but mutual respect and support even if another’s way is not our approach.
We need to keep the focus on human rights, women’s rights, civil rights then plan to endure and make a difference.
Think smart. Breathe. What’s the right next step?
2017 at In Bocca al Lupo Fine Art
Transition Celebration
Sunday, January 22, 2017 2-5 pm
Dear Friends,
With 2017 beginning, I’m excited to share the new direction for In Bocca al Lupo Fine Art. From the jewel box gallery in Milwaukie to the elegant space in Oregon City, the vision that created a community for artists and art lovers continues to evolve.
The best part of owning an art gallery is supporting, teaching and coaching fellow artists to accomplish their passions. When I pause to reflect on what brings me the most joy, I realize it isn’t a physical building, but rather the people who come through the door. This simple thought shapes my focus for the future. Over the next few months, look for updates on my personal and professional websites to better reflect the work that brings me the most satisfaction - teaching, mentoring and coaching.
As a mentor and coach, I encourage artists to develop a solid portfolio, while guiding them through the promotional process. Having a well-constructed platform increases professional confidence and visibility in the art world.
As a coach, I collaborate with artists who have enjoyed rich careers, yet may not be taking full advantage of digital marketing opportunities. I help artists inventory a lifetime body of work thus increasing potential value while concurrently expanding sales opportunities. A clear catalog facilitates inclusion in exhibitions or sales to private collectors and assists estate executors to sell or donate the body of work.
Whether teaching art or coaching, if requested I use bio-energy counseling techniques to successfully break through blocks and clear old programming initiating renewed enthusiasm for the artistic process.
If you know you’re serious about promoting your art or want to schedule a class for your group, drop me a note at inboccaallupofineart@gmail.com.
Please join me for the transition celebration, 2:00 to 5:00 p.m. Sunday, Jan. 22, 2017. My personal show depicting Oregon City and the Blue Heron Mill will be up until Jan. 27, 2017. Barring more crazy weather, drop in between 1 to 5 p.m. Wednesday through Friday. If you can’t make those times, call me for an appointment 971.258.2502.
The world is digital. Community is everywhere. We create our own circles of influence and support and I want to help you achieve your goals. While I won’t be in the Oregon City location after January, I will be doing what I have always done: growing as a person and helping others in their journeys as creative souls. Look for me under the same business name, In Bocca al Lupo Fine Art. Here’s to new beginnings and new horizons!
RHODIN IS COMING TO THE PAM!!!
So excited I can hardly wait!